Domestic Violence Prevention
Domestic Violence is a crime about power and control in relationships.
Domestic Battery can be committed by men or women, but national statistics show that in nearly 95% of reported cases, the victim is female and the perpetrator is male.
Relationship Violence tends to increase in frequency and intensity over time. Statistics show that nearly 50% of all homicides of women in the U.S. are Domestic Violence related
Nearly 20% of all American women acknowledge having been violently abused by a husband or boyfriend.
Nevada Revised Statute 33.018 defines Domestic Violence as an assault or battery of:
- a spouse
- a former spouse
- any person who is related by blood or marriage (including minor children)
- persons who share living quarters or have a child in common
- persons in a dating relationship (characterized by frequent intimate contact and the expectation of affectional or sexual involvement.)
It is unlawful for persons in such relationships to batter, assault, sexually assault, harass or commit other crimes against each other.
Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality
1.
Excessive Jealousy -
possessiveness of you, your time,
your attention etc.
2. Controlling Behavior -
attempting to control who you
see, what you wear, how you spend your money etc.
3. Pressure for quick
involvement -
many battered women dated or
knew their abuser less than six months before becoming engaged, moving in with
or marrying them. Pressure for a serious commitment very early in a
a relationship can be a warning signal.
4. Unrealistic
Expectations -
expecting you to fulfill every
emotional, physical and financial need or expecting you to be perfect for them
5. Isolation -
attempt to isolate you from
friends and family members in an attempt to create total dependence on them
6. Blames Others for
problems -
can't take personal
responsibility for their own mistakes or failure to achieve desired goals
7. Blames Others for
Feelings -
statements like "you make me
mad," "you make me unhappy" are an excuse to take their frustrations out on you
- mature individuals are able to control their emotions and reactions to
stressful situation.
8. Hypersensitivity -
easliy insulted, take
slightest setbacks as personal attacks
9. Cruelty to Animals
or Children -
60% of men who beat women also
batter and abuse children and animals. Those behaviors are a serious
warning signal of a dangerous personality.
10. Use of Force in Sex -
abusers may force sexual
activity, they may find the idea of rape exciting. Persons in a healthy
relationship should be respectful of each other's feeling on sexual activity.
11. Verbal Abuse -
name calling, belittling,
cruel and hurtful language etc. are very often a pre-cursor to physical abuse
12. Rigid Sex Roles -
men who abuse often view women
as inferior to men and expect them to be subservient an obedient
13. Dr. Jekyll & Mr.
Hyde -
sudden changes of mood from
kind and loving to violent and explosive
14. Past Battering -
a person who admits to past
battering, no matter the reason, is a high risk for future battering. Batterers
are expert liars and manipulators. They may attempt to "bribe" with profuse
apologies, sentimental notes or letters and gifts - these are meant to keep you
involved but do not guarantee a change in behavior. Persons whose
childhood was spent in a home where battery occurred are very likely to repeat
that pattern in their own home. It's wise to learn about a person's
history and attitudes toward family members before becoming seriously involved
15. Threats of Violence -
any threat should be taken
seriously - persons in healthy relationships do not threaten each other with
violence
16. Breaking or
Striking Objects -
this behavior is used as a
punishment or to frighten and intimidate
17. Any Force During an
Argument -
forcing you to listen,
grabbing, pushing, pinning to a wall, blocking exit etc. are attempts to control
and indicators of abusive tendencies
What can you do to prevent Domestic Violence?
- Don't accept abusive behavior from anyone. You have the right to be treated with respect and to live without fear of verbal or physical abuse, especially in your own home.
- Don't support industries that demean and objectify women and children.
- Report suspected abuse to the proper authorities.
- Learn about resources and services available in your area. Provide literature to co-workers and employees.
- Vote for and support political candidates who work to protect the rights of women and children.
- Provide a safe and loving home for your children. Don't pass on the legacy of violence.
What can you do if you are in a violent relationship now?
Have a personal Safety Plan
- arrange for a safe place to go in an emergency
- make copies of important documents and keep them in a safe place that the abuser does not know about
- keep some emergency money, important phone numbers, extra house and car keys readily available
- pack and hide an overnight bag with extra clothes and personal items for you and your children
- memorize the number of the the nearest Domestic Violence program - they can help before, during and after a crisis
- document your injuries, have pictures taken and keep them in a safe place
In a Crisis
- talk to someone you trust about your needs
- go to a safe place with your children
- use police protection when getting possessions from your house
- get medical attention for your injuries
- get a temporary protection order to keep the batterer away from you and your children (328-3210)
- observe the conditions of the protection order - never agree to see or talk to the suspect "off the record."
For more information or lists of community resources, contact the University Police Services Department at 784-4013.

